I do feel that those other things are important in this discussion. It shows that bad choices or behavior that actually are proven to shorten the life span are not outlawed. This would be comparable to the crack addict saying you shouldn't have that second cheeseburger. I think you need to show some type of study that shows protected anal sex is more dangerous than say being a couple pounds overweight. And if we're going to argue that those issues don't belong in this debate I could point out the same thing with the whole anal sex issue belonging in the gay marriage debate. It doesn't apply to lesbians, and it certainly doesn't to all gay males. Many just stick to oral sex and stuff. So we have some unquantifiable number of those actually doing "it" and some slutty gay you talked too, who felt damaged by it.

And I think it comes down to your not gay, any type of gay male sex probably repulses you and that in turn feeds a bias IMHO

Fair play!