the forum is based on rolling with the punches. if you question or fight the punches, it doesn't work. if you then throw your own punches, without rolling with , you've become hypocritical. we've seen many come and go that were unable to handle it - it's not an easy methodology, but it is a simple one.
taking it (too) seriously is bad. if you can't have fun with it, then why bother doing it?
presactly. I have been on the receiving end (har har) my fair share of times. at first I would get pissy about it and complain about getting picked on, but anymore I find myself laughing along with most of it. it's about the
art of the insult - any iconolast tard can throw together a half-assed photoshop of me, but it takes a nöwheremän or a jaburg to craft something genuinely inspired. you need to be able to laugh at yourself if you plan on getting through life without becoming an insufferable asshole and/or a serial killer.
and let's face it - some people just plain have it coming. however polite or well-mannered catfuck might have been, he was clearly
not right in the head. numerous posters have come and gone who simply couldn't hack it for whatever reason. we are our own quality-control mechanism, and these boards just plain aren't for everyone. but whether or not you decide to stick around and figure out how to make it here, bitching about getting made fun of isn't gonna help your cause any.
Well said.
Okay, yeah. I like Beardguy, but I can't dispute that. And at one point or another, we've all had our sacred issues that we got overly hot about and were called on with a good round of abuse, to snap us back into humility. And I've accepted that to a degree, that it isn't always handed out fairly, but it averages out in the end.
In Beardguy's case, and a few others like Princess Elisa, I think there's a hell-bent determinedness by some to bring out the ugliest possible reaction in even the nicest person. Which on one level, proves that no matter how nice someone is, they're still capable of fighting back with a vengeance when pushed to the wall. But I think that cornered potential is just a given, and don't really see the point in pushing someone to that level. Or passively accepting it.
I often think the "nice" people on these boards get the maximim abuse, because they often won't fight back. And then if they do, they're labelled as hypocrites by some abstraction for just defending themselves.
In another example, Prometheus' wife, or M E M's real name (as taunted by G-man's alt) are considered off-limits, and when they voice objection, everyone backs off (and I agree with and even openly advocated the backing off as well in M E M's case, and even in the case of Whomod's wife/alt, loathesome as I find Whomod).
But conversely, absolutely no boundaries are respected regarding G-man's personal life, or (another example) my Phillipine girlfriend. In the topic about Kabul Zick, the folks who piled on G-man, conversely had no problem with similar abuses from their side, pointed out in the topic.
So while I'd agree for the most part we all take our share of abuse, and some handle it better than others, it still
seems there's some for whom the abuse runs especially high.
Although at times, even those who are defended at one point from things deemed over the line, these same people are later given no-holds-barred treatment.
So I'm torn, because I don't like the overly mean stuff. It's ugly, and I just don't like to see iton the boards. But I guess it's just reality, in RKMB microcosm. Even those who dish it out most here seem to get their payback at some point. And if you stick around long enough, you see that, while often ugly, it is for the most part fairly distributed.
