Bianca, my pet, my dove, my evol.....

I am now letting you know what it is I think. Sure I harrass you, sure I constantly demand to know what is going on in your sex life, but know I can give you some advice. First of, I want to contradict Dave a bit. Dave is a smart guy, but when it comes to the thing about Pat's son... if you like kids, and if Pat has a kid, feel comfortable bringing it up. Don't bring up the past relationship, but bring up the kid or if he spends time with him. I dunno. Point is, if he is bonded with his son, and you like his kid, then he'll like you more, and might introduce you to the wee thing. Someone to give your old comics to. Or at least someone to take to the bad sci-fi movies. Butter him up, you know [wink]

Now, as far as the guy... you have told me about your lurid past as a vast whore (I am kidding guys, she didn't take money), so instead of just making the first move, you need to initiate a little more on conversation. The reason I mention this, is because it sets the normally shy guy routine off guard, forcing him to answer questions or rise up the ante. And we just love that. In every shy guy is a naughty boy just waiting to be released. Call it the repressed dude thing.

You remember how he talked to you in his IMs? Just bring those up. "Where is that dirty-talking man who wanted to seduce me and have his way with me in some dark motel room? I am waiting..." True you are not totally waiting, but it lets him know you do want to pursue this relationship on other levels and you are not an inhibited little thing. Spank his ass while you play pool. Call him a naughty little cheater. Bring out that devilish smile in him.

See, I am a real shy guy, but it takes a woman who is bold, honest and assertive to get me to loosen up. Not the kind that are overly sexual, in that they dress slutty and say "Let's fuck" then I run for cover like a goddamn coward. But you are building up a relationship and you are warming him up, but as the bond has grown, there needs to be, dare I say it, some of that boldness, or honesty to keep it from just being an inhibited "awww shucks" kind of thing. You know, like Jennifer Jason Leigh and that dork in Fast Times at Ridgemont High. "They are taking things slowly..."