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Jan. 11: So, I'm home from my night in Ypsi/AA and finally get a shower and do my hair...I feel like a normal person again! And it was only 10am! haha So, I putter around home for awhile...and get things ready for my meeting later...and I see that Pat is online, so I leave him a little message, "Hey there! I'm heading out to Novi for a meeting but if you get bored later give me a ring.  " And...I'm in Novi until almost 9pm (my meeting ended early, but I grabbed a bite to eat with Julia & Diana) so, as I'm in the car I check my phone and I see: 1 Missed Call. First off, it's a number I didn't know...but then I remembered that I told Pat to call me if he got bored...and yes, there's a voice message waiting for me. It's him and he basically says that he's looking to get out of the house and he'll wait until 9pm to hear back from me...so I look at the time, and...it's 8:54pm! Talk about skating in under the buzzer! haha So, I call him and we finally settle on shooting some pool again (he bought a new que stick) so I told him he could break it in. And...he proceeds to kick my ass...and I only win because he scratched twice out of the 11 games we played! But I looked good! New black jeans (a size smaller now, so that's always good), wore the cute loafers with the 2-inch heels and the berry colored, Asian-ish v-neck top with the butterfly jemstone necklace/choker. I do have to say though...that when you wear 2-inch heels...you end up bending over so that your upper body is almost parallel with the floor and your ass is sticking out and up in the air. So, the night is good. I had a couple of beers and proceeded to get extremely buzzed! No wonder I don't drink much beer! Woo! So yeah...I had a good time last night...and was a bit more flirtatious with Mr. WLP...and even got to kinda, sorta, hit him in the ass with my stick because he was beating me like crazy. hehe But that's okay...I know he made a point of coming over to me (quite often) to make sure I was still smiling and having a good time (and yes, I was!). He also managed to get a few pokes in at my sides to make me jump (I'm tickelish there) and he had his fingers all over my face...making sure that I was smiling or what not. And hell, I didn't mind. Not at all! So...we start our last game about 1:35am and it's over in about 15 minutes. Yeah, don't you remember me saying that I sucked? haha After that's finished...we just kinda relax a bit at our table and it's 2:15am before we know it. We head outside and it's cold as hell. I finally figured out what he meant last week by, "So are you leaving?" It was a ploy to get me in his car...and it worked. It takes my car a while to heat up...and his car heats up quite nicely in short order. So, he moves his car over and next to mine and I climb in and we chat for...are you ready...45 minutes! We talk about regular stuff and I find out his son's name is Tyler (what is it with that name? haha) and he's 9 years old. So, it's just before 3am, so I decided it's time for me to go and I get a good hug...and I pull back a bit and get a nice kiss. Then he says, "oooo you're warm," and then pulls me back and I get another wiff of that neck and just kinda stay there for a minute. Haha So yay me! WooHoo! And then I take my gloves off and touch the side of his head and his face...and he's a little chilly. So, being the total girl I am, I put my hands over his ears to try and warm him up. Yeah, I know...it's just another excuse to touch him, but I don't care. And before anyone says anything...I'm not 100% better yet...so it was probably a good idea to NOT try and have gotten some tongue. I'll wait until I'm totally over this cold. *sigh* If only this damn cold would disappear...
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Since it has been a while since my last date (ugh don't even want to think about how long!), I am now living vicariously through you...so keep the stories coming!!! Way to go!
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Jan. 4: Met for drinks and some pool....5 hours worth.
Shot pool for about 2.5 hours. Joked around, drank and had a good time. Then, after he kicked my ass in that ("So, are you done yet? Do you surrender?") we gave up our table and just sat in the corner (so we could actually hear each other) and talked and joked around some more.
THEN...the last hour or so...touchey feely time! Let's just say that he found 1 major tickle zone (my sides) and then couldn't leave it alone....and his well, I know where it is...but it's not as effective through a shirt. ![[wink]](images/icons/wink.gif)
Oh, and he has nice hands too...nice and male. Always a good thing.
Anyway. We closed the place and chatted for a bit in the cold and finally said "good night" and I got another fantastic hug (I like reaching up to tall guys), a good wiff of his neck (very yummy) and another little kiss.
Yay me. :)
Okay, now I need to shower and get into some regular clothes.
Sounds to me like everything is going according to schedule. Don't force, but don't "lunch" on that either. You both are gonna erupt pretty soon...!
PS- If you're up close to him and he asks you some cute flirty question, bite your lip and do the "um I dunno" look, it'll drive him nuts.
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Oh, and find a reason to whisper in his ear..... he'll get the heeby-jeebies and it'll set up the attack very well. ![[nyah hah]](images/icons/tongue.gif)
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That reminds me I have to break in my que stick...any volunteers?
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Since it has been a while since my last date (ugh don't even want to think about how long!), I am now living vicariously through you...so keep the stories coming!!! Way to go!
Well Paul totalled his truck and is laid up for at least 8 weeks so heres your chance!
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Sounds to me like everything is going according to schedule. Don't force, but don't "lunch" on that either. You both are gonna erupt pretty soon...!
PS- If you're up close to him and he asks you some cute flirty question, bite your lip and do the "um I dunno" look, it'll drive him nuts.
Well, I don't know about any schedule...but I'm having fun. Besides...we haven't really called these "dates." We're just hanging out...at least according to him (I think).
As for that lip thing...I already have a habbit of doing that. Happens a lot when I contemplate things quickly. Which means, when I'm playing pool...I do it a lot. lol
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Since it has been a while since my last date (ugh don't even want to think about how long!), I am now living vicariously through you...so keep the stories coming!!! Way to go!
Hey, the last date I went on, was back in January of 2001. So I feel your pain Kimi... I know how it is.
Hell, I'm living vicariously through myself as well! lol
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Oh, and find a reason to whisper in his ear.....
he'll get the heeby-jeebies and it'll set up the attack very well.
Well, you can't real whisper in someone's ear when you're at a pool hall. But there is a lot of close talking... :)
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OK, this is getting serious now.
1. Play with your hair.
2. Play with his hair.
3. Definitely whisper in his ear.
4. Maintain eye contact, but drop them every now and again as if you're embarrassed.
5. Grab him by the back of the neck when you kiss him goodnight.
6. Sigh through your nose.
7. Wet your lips, often. Leave your lips slightly apart after you wet them.
8. Run your fingertips along your lower lip, while they're slightly apart.
9. don't talk about the kid (you'll distract him with filial responsibilities, and he knows you're not bothered by it already).
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OK, this is getting serious now...
Huh? How do you figure? And yes, I would like it spelled out for me. LOL
Grr...! See, if our mutual friends weren't so gossip hungry, I could bounce some of this off of them. But since a couple friends of ours recently broke up (and much drama ensued) I don't need to add my own into the mix.
I'm not quite up to speed on the way a guy's mind works when he's "hanging out" with someone who happens to be female. I know it's not all sexual, all the time. Even a guy's brain needs to take a break. Right?
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Yes,a guy can hang out with a female & not have any sexual thoughts....it's rare,but it can be done.Let me give you an example,I have a friend at work & she's probally the best friend I have there.We talk a lot,we hang out,on Sundays we go to lunch together.That's it....there's nothing sexual whatsoever in my mind when we hang(ok,she's also 17 & that'd be like.....ewwwww,but that's beside the point).I look at her as if she were a sister that I never had.Now,maybe that's not the best example,but it is an example of how sex isn't always the driving force behind a guys thoughts....or at least mine anyways.
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hmm...
i guess it is possible. i've heard the legends.
but i dont think i've ever hung out with a girl and not had sexual thoughts about her, or some form of sexual past with her.
like the great chris rock says, guys just have girl friends they havent fucked yet.
we tried and got lost somewhere, but we're still trying.
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Oh, and find a reason to whisper in his ear.....
he'll get the heeby-jeebies and it'll set up the attack very well.
Well, you can't real whisper in someone's ear when you're at a pool hall. But there is a lot of close talking... :)
Yes you can....
You're already limiting the possibilities. Think creatively.
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1. Play with your hair. ...already do it.
2. Play with his hair. ...umm kinda did that a couple of times.
3. Definitely whisper in his ear. ...still working on that one.
4. Maintain eye contact, but drop them every now and again as if you're embarrassed. ...do it all the time.
5. Grab him by the back of the neck when you kiss him goodnight. ...umm...okay....
6. Sigh through your nose. ...huh?
7. Wet your lips, often. Leave your lips slightly apart after you wet them. ...gee, that makes the lipstick go away ya know...
8. Run your fingertips along your lower lip, while they're slightly apart. ...already do it.
9. don't talk about the kid (you'll distract him with filial responsibilities, and he knows you're not bothered by it already). ...uh, okay...
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Oh, and find a reason to whisper in his ear.....
he'll get the heeby-jeebies and it'll set up the attack very well.
Well, you can't real whisper in someone's ear when you're at a pool hall. But there is a lot of close talking... :)
Yes you can....
You're already limiting the possibilities. Think creatively.
Well, I do all the same things if you were going to whisper in someone's ear....only it's not whispering. Ya know? If I whispered then he couldn't hear me.
I just haven't had a good opportunity to do so just yet.
It's still kinda akward sitting in his car.
I know...I'm weird...
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Bianca, my pet, my dove, my evol..... I am now letting you know what it is I think. Sure I harrass you, sure I constantly demand to know what is going on in your sex life, but know I can give you some advice. First of, I want to contradict Dave a bit. Dave is a smart guy, but when it comes to the thing about Pat's son... if you like kids, and if Pat has a kid, feel comfortable bringing it up. Don't bring up the past relationship, but bring up the kid or if he spends time with him. I dunno. Point is, if he is bonded with his son, and you like his kid, then he'll like you more, and might introduce you to the wee thing. Someone to give your old comics to. Or at least someone to take to the bad sci-fi movies. Butter him up, you know Now, as far as the guy... you have told me about your lurid past as a vast whore (I am kidding guys, she didn't take money), so instead of just making the first move, you need to initiate a little more on conversation. The reason I mention this, is because it sets the normally shy guy routine off guard, forcing him to answer questions or rise up the ante. And we just love that. In every shy guy is a naughty boy just waiting to be released. Call it the repressed dude thing. You remember how he talked to you in his IMs? Just bring those up. "Where is that dirty-talking man who wanted to seduce me and have his way with me in some dark motel room? I am waiting..." True you are not totally waiting, but it lets him know you do want to pursue this relationship on other levels and you are not an inhibited little thing. Spank his ass while you play pool. Call him a naughty little cheater. Bring out that devilish smile in him. See, I am a real shy guy, but it takes a woman who is bold, honest and assertive to get me to loosen up. Not the kind that are overly sexual, in that they dress slutty and say "Let's fuck" then I run for cover like a goddamn coward. But you are building up a relationship and you are warming him up, but as the bond has grown, there needs to be, dare I say it, some of that boldness, or honesty to keep it from just being an inhibited "awww shucks" kind of thing. You know, like Jennifer Jason Leigh and that dork in Fast Times at Ridgemont High. "They are taking things slowly..."
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Oh, and find a reason to whisper in his ear.....
he'll get the heeby-jeebies and it'll set up the attack very well.
Well, you can't real whisper in someone's ear when you're at a pool hall. But there is a lot of close talking... :)
Yes you can....
You're already limiting the possibilities. Think creatively.
Well, I do all the same things if you were going to whisper in someone's ear....only it's not whispering. Ya know? If I whispered then he couldn't hear me.
I just haven't had a good opportunity to do so just yet.
It's still kinda akward sitting in his car.
I know...I'm weird...
:lol: Actually I'm enjoying this. Kinda seeing the anxieties of the other party for a change. I'm sure he's probably just as hesitant and attentative as you are right now. Just roll with it.
"it's still kinda awkward sitting in his car" -instant classic
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In related news....
Me:Hmmm... What's Pat's e-mail address?
Bianca: I'm not telling you!
There is such a lack of trust in our frienship. It's not like I was going to give him a link to this thread or anything... Would have been cool though...
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:lol: Actually I'm enjoying this. Kinda seeing the anxieties of the other party for a change. I'm sure he's probably just as hesitant and attentative as you are right now. Just roll with it.
"it's still kinda awkward sitting in his car" - instant classic
Well, at least it's enjoyable for others. lol
And it's true! Everytime I get into a guy's car for the first little while...it's slightly akward...I don't know why, it just is...
You know, a guy's car is his domain and all that...
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In related news....
Me:Hmmm... What's Pat's e-mail address?
Bianca: I'm not telling you!
There is such a lack of trust in our frienship. It's not like I was going to give him a link to this thread or anything... Would have been cool though...
I would so have gotten on a plane and flown down to North Carolina to kick your ass...
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I love it when you talk dirty to me. Now if only you can say that to Pat, then I think we got some love in the air. Just replace Kick with spank. Might want to use a whip and wear some leather.
...I am so lonely...
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I love it when you talk dirty to me. Now if only you can say that to Pat, then I think we got some love in the air. Just replace Kick with spank. Might want to use a whip and wear some leather.
...I am so lonely...
I tease and flirt with Pat...I just don't have to resort to violence with him.
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Yes, a guy can hang out with a female & not have any sexual thoughts....it's rare, but it can be done. Let me give you an example, I have a friend at work & she's probally the best friend I have there. We talk a lot, we hang out, on Sundays we go to lunch together. That's it....there's nothing sexual whatsoever in my mind when we hang (ok, she's also 17 & that'd be like.....ewwwww, but that's beside the point). I look at her as if she were a sister that I never had. Now,maybe that's not the best example, but it is an example of how sex isn't always the driving force behind a guys thoughts....or at least mine anyways.
Allan...that's cool and all...but it doesn't help me at all! :lol:
Thanks though! :)
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I am now letting you know what it is I think. Sure I harrass you, sure I constantly demand to know what is going on in your sex life, but know I can give you some advice. First of, I want to contradict Dave a bit. Dave is a smart guy, but when it comes to the thing about Pat's son... if you like kids, and if Pat has a kid, feel comfortable bringing it up. Don't bring up the past relationship, but bring up the kid or if he spends time with him. I dunno. Point is, if he is bonded with his son, and you like his kid, then he'll like you more, and might introduce you to the wee thing. Someone to give your old comics to. Or at least someone to take to the bad sci-fi movies. Butter him up, you know
Well, when it comes to kids (and since this is my first and only experience so far) and divorce, I know it can be a touchy subject. So, I'm just going to play that by ear and let what happens, happen. I'm not going to press the issue or give him the opportunity to become defensive.
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Now, as far as the guy... you have told me about your lurid past as a vast whore (I am kidding guys, she didn't take money), so instead of just making the first move, you need to initiate a little more on conversation. The reason I mention this, is because it sets the normally shy guy routine off guard, forcing him to answer questions or rise up the ante. And we just love that. In every shy guy is a naughty boy just waiting to be released. Call it the repressed dude thing.
You know Sha, your humor will only get you so far...just remember that.
I know I told you all that Pat was a shy guy. Hell, he's even said that to me himself. But, as far as conversation goes, he doesn't have any problem with that. I've seen how he acts and reacts in group settings. I'm pretty sure it's just when it comes "dating" issues.
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You remember how he talked to you in his IMs? Just bring those up. "Where is that dirty-talking man who wanted to seduce me and have his way with me in some dark motel room? I am waiting..." True you are not totally waiting, but it lets him know you do want to pursue this relationship on other levels and you are not an inhibited little thing. Spank his ass while you play pool. Call him a naughty little cheater. Bring out that devilish smile in him.
Well, I'm not going to bring up an old IM conversation...that's just too odd. But we do talk about things we've discussed previously.
As for smacking asses and what not...I'm not about to do that just yet...not with my hand. With the que stick while we're shooting pool, yeah that might not be too bad (and no, I don't haul off and bruise him).
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See, I am a real shy guy, but it takes a woman who is bold, honest and assertive to get me to loosen up. Not the kind that are overly sexual, in that they dress slutty and say "Let's fuck" then I run for cover like a goddamn coward. But you are building up a relationship and you are warming him up, but as the bond has grown, there needs to be, dare I say it, some of that boldness, or honesty to keep it from just being an inhibited "awww shucks" kind of thing. You know, like Jennifer Jason Leigh and that dork in Fast Times at Ridgemont High. "They are taking things slowly..."
Bad choice of examles Sha...I've seen that movie once.
As for honesty...I'd like to think that I'm pretty honest. As for being bold...I'm not exactly known for that (as far as dating is concerned) but I do have my moments.
I guess I'll just have to see how things go. Thanks for the input Sha.
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Since it has been a while since my last date (ugh don't even want to think about how long!), I am now living vicariously through you...so keep the stories coming!!! Way to go!
Well Paul totalled his truck and is laid up for at least 8 weeks so heres your chance!
Hmmm...So he needs someone to nurse him back to health and I just happen to be a nurse...
We must be star crossed...I got in an accident today too...though my car was not injured and I escaped with a sore neck and a headache (can't say that about the car that hit me tho...)
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OK, this is getting serious now...
Huh? How do you figure? And yes, I would like it spelled out for me. LOL
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Grr...! See, if our mutual friends weren't so gossip hungry, I could bounce some of this off of them. But since a couple friends of ours recently broke up (and much drama ensued) I don't need to add my own into the mix.
I'm not quite up to speed on the way a guy's mind works when he's "hanging out" with someone who happens to be female. I know it's not all sexual, all the time. Even a guy's brain needs to take a break. Right?
What kind of namby pamby men have you known?
Having mutual friends, I'd go the Kindergarten Maneouvere. Tell them, "I like Pat and want to be his girlfriend." They'll go to Pat and say, "Biancy wants to be his girlfriend." At least you'll get the message across without losing face. If the response comes back negative, you'll know the deal.
This once worked for me by accident when I was 24: "Do you think I should ask her to a ball since she has a boyfriend?" and the answer came back, "Yes, you should, because she'll say yes."
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Originally posted by Bianca:
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Originally posted by allan1:
Yes, a guy can hang out with a female & not have any sexual thoughts....it's rare, but it can be done. Let me give you an example, I have a friend at work & she's probally the best friend I have there. We talk a lot, we hang out, on Sundays we go to lunch together. That's it....there's nothing sexual whatsoever in my mind when we hang (ok, she's also 17 & that'd be like.....ewwwww, but that's beside the point). I look at her as if she were a sister that I never had. Now,maybe that's not the best example, but it is an example of how sex isn't always the driving force behind a guys thoughts....or at least mine anyways.
Allan...that's cool and all...but it doesn't help me at all! :lol:
Thanks though! :)
It's not supposed to. I was just showin' you that sex isn't always on a guys mind.
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Bianca! (and all the other girls) Okay now I need advice.... So lately I've been exchanging e-mails between this girl I used to know waaay back in high school. We always kind of crushed but her brother always got in the way of it, so nothing ever happened. Well she asked me to call her and I did and we caught up and made plans for another time and she'll IM me and the whole shebang. But I feel weird. I feel like she still might've got creeped out or something. I don't know. Maybe she's just keeping her distance or something. This is the only girl that I can never get comfortable around! It's really fucking annoying! I act like a goddam spaz or something! I'm NOT A FUCKING SPAZZ !! ![[AAAHHHH!!!]](graemlins/aahhh.gif) .........alright what do you think? In my head or what?
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As long as you don't mention you hang out here,you'll be ok.
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:lol: Guess you have a point there.
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Originally posted by La Machine:
Bianca! (and all the other girls)
Okay now I need advice....
So lately I've been exchanging e-mails between this girl I used to know waaay back in high school. We always kind of crushed but her brother always got in the way of it, so nothing ever happened. Well she asked me to call her and I did and we caught up and made plans for another time and she'll IM me and the whole shebang. But I feel weird. I feel like she still might've got creeped out or something. I don't know. Maybe she's just keeping her distance or something. This is the only girl that I can never get comfortable around! It's really fucking annoying! I act like a goddam spaz or something! I'm NOT A FUCKING SPAZZ !!
.........alright what do you think? In my head or what?
So, from what you said...it sounds like you made tentative plans on the phone but are waiting for her to get back to you with the specifics. Only she hasn't gotten back to you yet, right?
Well, if it's only been a few days...I wouldn't panic yet. Maybe she's just busy with work and is waiting to get back to you when things are less hectic.
If it's been a little longer, maybe you could just send her a short e-mail just saying "Hi" and that if she would like to get together and have drinks or coffee to just give you a ring or e-mail you back.
Just put a subtle hint back in her head and maybe that'll jumpstart things for ya...and make you seem less "anxious." :)
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I think you're a spaz.
Ask her out. "Who dares wins." (that's the motto of the Special Air Service, but its equally applicable to getting laid.)
At worst she'll say no and you can move onto a new target for your nightly fantasy ejaculation.
Ok, you're not really a spaz, but instead of going out with her to grab a coffee, you're sitting on the internet talking to us...
...I change my mind. You are a spaz.
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Oh, yeah. Ring her again. Do it now.
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Originally posted by allan1:
As long as you don't mention you hang out here,you'll be ok.
Depends on what kinda chick he's looking for...
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Originally posted by Bianca:
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Originally posted by La Machine:
Bianca! (and all the other girls)
Okay now I need advice....
So lately I've been exchanging e-mails between this girl I used to know waaay back in high school. We always kind of crushed but her brother always got in the way of it, so nothing ever happened. Well she asked me to call her and I did and we caught up and made plans for another time and she'll IM me and the whole shebang. But I feel weird. I feel like she still might've got creeped out or something. I don't know. Maybe she's just keeping her distance or something. This is the only girl that I can never get comfortable around! It's really fucking annoying! I act like a goddam spaz or something! I'm NOT A FUCKING SPAZZ !!
.........alright what do you think? In my head or what?
So, from what you said...it sounds like you made tentative plans on the phone but are waiting for her to get back to you with the specifics. Only she hasn't gotten back to you yet, right?
Well, if it's only been a few days...I wouldn't panic yet. Maybe she's just busy with work and is waiting to get back to you when things are less hectic.
If it's been a little longer, maybe you could just send her a short e-mail just saying "Hi" and that if she would like to get together and have drinks or coffee to just give you a ring or e-mail you back.
Just put a subtle hint back in her head and maybe that'll jumpstart things for ya...and make you seem less "anxious." :)
Well it's only been one day. So I guess I'm overeeacting a bit. But it's just that we've always had this problem where we're about to meet up, and either her brother, or one of my "friends" (bros before ho's guys!) will get in the way and we wind up not talking to each other for another four years!
Guess I'm a little paranoid is all. ![[eh... i dunno... ]](graemlins/ehidunno.gif)
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Originally posted by Dave:
I think you're a spaz.
Ask her out. "Who dares wins." (that's the motto of the Special Air Service, but its equally applicable to getting laid.)
At worst she'll say no and you can move onto a new target for your nightly fantasy ejaculation.
Ok, you're not really a spaz, but instead of going out with her to grab a coffee, you're sitting on the internet talking to us...
...I change my mind. You are a spaz.
That's some cute shit there, Dave. How common of me. Guess I am the spaz. Oh, unfortunately it's not that simple. She lives in Cape Cod. I live in....well we all know where I live. The distance is pretty far. Cup of coffee, huh? Sure I'll serve her some coffee when I pick her up with the 777 private and we cruise to the Bahamas to meet up with PDiddy, Xibit, and Fabolous where she'll celebrate with me as I open up the newest in my long chain of hot Euro-Electric clubs . Then we'll do some lines, tour the beach in my hummer, and fuck on the dunes til the sun comes up....
....s'at better? ![[izzat so?]](graemlins/zatso.gif)
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