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Chewy Walrus said:
I have serious insecurity issues and, due to a few bad experiences with women I've liked in the past, I have paranoia issues regarding the women I do date. This makes me an easily jealous individual. If I were to tell her about my past situations and what bought me to this point, would an average woman be able to understand? If a girl who I was dating went to a dance with another guy (just as friends), do you think it would be wrong of me to act in a jealous fashion? How would you suggest I deal with these feelings of jealousy and insecurity?


Stareena says... first off, ignore the last two responses. Okay, that in mind, this is my input. Past bad experinces make us who we are today, for better or for worse. If I haddn't gotten married, moved to Las Vegas, seperated then move to Maryland, I'd have never met the people I know and love dearly today. But, I digress....

I say that if you are out on a date with a woman, not to bring it up. The past is a sticky topic for most, especially within the first five dates, so I would not bring it up. But if you are looking at being in a relationship (or at least a fair amount of dates and being somewhat exclusive). Then I would discuss it. A great relationship is built on trust. So if you care about a person, letting them know you've been hurt in the past is a way to open up to a girl, letting her know that you are sensitive and that you trust her with this "type" of information (what I mean is being sensitive and opening a vunerable subject to her). If you have reached a level where you are attracted to a woman and things are good between you, it is best to let her know. A reasonable woman will understand it.

As for the dance situation, it depends on their friendship. But there is no sense in worrying about it (easier said then done, I know). But address that you are feeling insecure about this, but let her know that you trust her.

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