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Wednesday said:
Why, Non, do you feel that you need to be in a relationship, exactly.



That's a hard question to answer. Too many answers, is why.

I simply LIKE it is the easiest answer. Who doesn't like feeling like they belong to something greater than themself? Pariah excluded, since he's obviously attained a level of personal contentment rivaling celebate monks...

I enjoy my time and my freedom and the ability to do whatever I want, whenever I want it, but I would gladly trade it in order to share that time with someone who cares about me, wants to be with me, and genuinly LIKES me as a person.

I like conversation. I like it when someone listens to what I have to say. And if I'm dating a girl I obviously have an interest in what she has to say, too. Otherwise I wouldn't be dating her. Talking is fun. Debating is fun (arguing is not). I don't care what anyone thinks or says, you CAN learn something new from a significant other on a daily basis if you WANT to.

I like being to touch and be touched. I like being physical. It doesn't have to be sex, and I'm not a touchy-feely guy, but I like affection. I like it when a girl makes a move to put her hand against my back, or snuggle up against me. I like it when a girl wants to hold my hand. Or make out. I like it when I turn a girl on. What sane straight man wouldn't?

Knowing that someone has a personal interest in ME personally is the biggest thing, I think. Having a girl fall in love with you is an amazing thing. Spending time alone, pursuing activities and pleasures on your own time, with only you to enjoy them... That's all well and good. That's IMPORTANT. But... in the end... It's just you. Or you and you're buddies. How fulfilling.

I like to share... I WANT to share. Unfortunately, the whole point of my initial lament WAS... I don't really have anything worthwhile to share.

Yet.

Maybe I will find someone who doesn't care about all my faults... But I don't expect anyone to.

Non

P.S. You're right, Pariah. Just because two people are together doesn't mean they're happy. But I have no sympathy for those people because no one's forcing them to STAY in that relationship. Unless it's b/c of financial reasons or a kid(s)... no one HAS to be in a bad relationship. That's just laziness on their part. Break up with the fucking bitch if you don't like her. Dump the asshole if he's treating you like shit. Anyone who can't follow that logic has one too many chromosomes.

I got soul but I'm not a soldier.