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klinton said:
So, my question....Should I just kill the fucking bitch?



It wouldn't solve anything. Plus, your BF would have one more thing to be shy about.

If you went into this reltaionship with him knowing that he was not comfortable being out, that's your issue, not his. If you feel compelled to change him (possibly by outing him when you get the chance for it), that again, is your issue, not his. If he wishes to live as a closeted gay man, that's his decision and you should respect it. If you cannot, then discontinue your relationship with him.

I know a lot of his sitaution. I am only out to a few close friends and my ex-wife. I am still mulling over the extent to which I'll ever be fully out. And that's my decision. Not anybody else's. And if I date someone and develop a relationship with him, again, being out is my business, not his. And I'll be upfront about that.

If you feel he was not upfront with you about it, then you and he need to talk and see to what extent you can work this out. But don't be disillusioned: trying to feel as though it's your duty or desire to change him will only destroy the relationship.

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