Depends on your perspective, doesn't it? You're an American patriot, and a proud one, so you have your own articulated view on it.
The families of those soldiers and sailors killed had their lives shattered. But the soldiers and sailors were deployed with a view to, in the case of Beirut, military intervention, and in the case of the Cole, keeping the Persian Gulf an American pond. As military personnel, there is a good risk they might die in the service of their country. If they didn't want to run that risk, they shouldn't have enlisted. You join the military, you might die, because you're a target, and indeed a valid one to your opponents. My point is that killing civilians is on the contrary not warranted by any stretch of the imagination.
History is written by the winners. If Europe ends up as an Islamic caliphate, the people responsible for both will be viewed as freedom fighters who sacrificed thier lives for good cause. If not, they'll be viewed as terrorists.
